Ahhhh, what a story! After chapter 5 I just couldn’t put this book down. My husband knew better than to talk to me…with tears running down my cheeks after ch. 5, ch. 11, and the epilogue.

Chapter 12 was a such a relief – Nella was able to find her place and her peace. It reaffirmed that my struggle to get home will be worth every moment of hardship.

I loved the relationship between Nella and her daughter – it wasn’t perfect, but they came together despite their shortfalls. Their relationship took place over 50 years ago, when women were expected to stay home and raise a family. But they faced the same problems and struggles that working moms face every day in 2008. It really put things into perspective in my life and regarding my children.

And it’s odd to say that QOTBT helps put life into perspective – but unexpectedly, it did. I connected with Nella. Putting your dreams on hold to raise a family. Not that I’m all self-sacrificing for my family…but I know I wouldn’t be doing what I’m doing if I was alone. Dreams don’t completely go on hold – they just change a bit – they redirect themselves.

I completely get the going all out on everything, selling the most tickets – to prove what? Nella’s issues were with herself, she did it for selfish reasons. Despite her good intentions! That is SO me. And I understand that about myself – I really do (Erika). I go 150% on everything for the girls…and they don’t know the difference! I do it for me. I do it to prove to myself and others that I can do it.

I’m the mom that sends the best treats, the cutest snacks, the most supportive. And although I know my children benefit from my support – I do it mostly because it makes me feel good. Selfish reasons! I need to let go of that – a little bit at a time. Nella learned that during the latter part of her life. After her daughter was grown and married. I need to start now. Funny thing about parenting: you know better, consciously you know what you should say and do. But it usually never comes out of your mouth or through your actions as you intend.

In any case – loved the book – 100% recommend it. Anything from Trigiani is worth reading…except for Rococo…unless you want a kick ASS chocolate cake recipe. Well, I can just give you that – email me and save yourself the trouble of buying the book! However, QOTBT is worth the read – again and again.